Living nearby but not a good neighbor

Once having my haircut at a familiar shop in Cho Lon area (Ho Chi Minh City), the shopkeeper and the main barber “opened his heart” to methat “the relationship between him and his son of teenageris slowly becoming distant and difficult to heal. The father insisted that because he had to care the store and did not have free time to talk with his son. And he allowed himself to get fatherhood right to impose, restrict, scold and beat his son all the time that he did not restrain his emotions as told by his wife.

As a customer for over 20 years with thestore owners, I felt really heartbreaking for misfortune that this family was facing. With all of my sincerity and experience, I shared with them that “the childhood passes very quickly, spendyour time staying by him, listenning to him to find out the root cause of the problem, knowing his hopes and ambitions thenprovideinstructions and advice”.

Do not ever hurt a child’s soulor the specter of family violence will follow him for life, even worse when they repeat that behavior with their children later.

In reality, sometimes parents live under the same roof with their children, live “close” but not really “side by side”their children. Children always need the companionship of their parents, need their parentsto hear them speak, understand their mood, and give them “proper” advice (actions, objectives appropriate to the circumstances and ability of each child).

Many parents think that they just provide for their childrenwith a life full of materials,a well known school, access to good teachers and so onare enough to make up for the lack of time close to their children. In reality, there were many heartbreaking stories from this awareness, only when “a very serious problem”happens to their children do they know.

I should think, to get a real harmony in the family, the interests and insights are the most important and necessary.

NHQ